How To Deal With Disappointment II
I wrote about four techniques to prevent disappointment a few weeks ago, and I was able to discuss two of them. So, in this second section, we’ll go through the final two, which are:
- Let go easily.
- Speak your mind out
If you missed out on the source and pepper for the first part, you can always get it here.
What I mean when I say “let it go” is that whatever occurs, it has already happened. Don’t feel too sorry or upset for allowing yourself to linger at a certain spot for a prolonged period of time. Move on and accept it. Things happen, and it’s okay. I feel you have a lot of questions right? Let me answer some for you. How can I just move on like that? he broke my heart, I loved him like my life, I so much invested my life in that job, my last relationship we had all figured out and he cheated on me so on and so on till no end, your questions right? Let’s go about it together, get a quiet place or you can probably go to the ocean side and shout it out, make so much noise by telling out all the hurt. You will see all the burdens will be free from your heart and you will be happy again or better still make the loudest noise ever, let it all out, and you will be fine.
If things aren’t going your way pray, smile and plan again it will surely work out. Let me tell you about my last relationship, well I trusted him, and so when he told me he cheated and got a lady pregnant you know when I tell this part of the relationship a lot of people tell me, he loves me but who cares, me I move. So after he told me I immediately went into humanian mode which the first is denial mode, one of these days I will be gisting us about the stages in what I called “Humanian Mode”.
Well, I am currently cooking things up in the psychological environment and will be gisting you guys later. Back to the story at hand, I was like, that is not possible until the lady called me herself and explained her own view and of course, my ex also explained his. The funny thing is that I left my initial relationship because I wanted to focus on my career and get things right, but then I got pressured in one way or the other and I told myself to give it a try again and you know what I did not regret trying anything even when it does not work my way, God does see me through always and it been some solid years now. So after the two parties told me about the sweet and super story, I heard to stand down because me been the middle man standing alone without any support, I was pained but had to let them be. What did I do to overcome the heartbreak, well I got addicted to reading Wattpad stories and when I wanted to lash out I go into the bathroom which was my best location to make noise my safe space, I do play music to the loudest, and my shout to the highest? This really helped me and the funny thing is if you see me outside then you will never know I had my bad days also. I will always carry other individual matters in my head and this gave me the assurance that seeing others heal is my greatest joy and I decided to be and will always be a people’s doctor. So why all this story, I want to always be a source of joy to others irrespective of my own situation, I will always be there to support you and vote for you. So don’t get it all acted up, this current flood will soon pass and you will be fine again and no time for regret, move on. You are doing well.
When we talk about Speaking our minds, a lot of people including me sometimes tend to think for others. Like we say what will he/she say now if I tell her my mind and what will society see me as? I am here today to tell you that always tell people the piece of your mind, you are not responsible for their thinking or how they decode the message you passed across. You know in my country Nigeria, we have this mindset that if our parents are talking to us you don’t talk or try to correct them, but sometimes they are wrong we need to correct them and they shut out some of their children’s ideas or some even tell them not to talk at all, this basically creates a phobia in the kid's life that later they will get to know. Some parents missed it when their kids try to bond with them because they never give a listening ear. Well, this is a story for another day. Back to speaking out our minds no matter the situation, say your part and let the rest be because most times when we don’t speak out, it will come back to us and we start to beat ourselves up, and some fight the battles all in the head which may later lead to depression because you might be angry for not speaking out your mind, which does happen to everyone including me, we imagine and rewind the time in order to speak out our mind. How to avoid this is just speak your mind in time and season.
There are various ways we can overcome disappointment but these are my 4 keys for now and I will surely update you on new ones I discover in the long run.
Thanks for always watching out for me and for always being there to support me. I will forever be grateful. Thanks. Till we meet again in this writing world. I still remain my humble self “Wind_y_ter”.
