Love, Compromise, and Harmony: My Vision of an Ideal Marriage
It’s the season of love, my people! Happy Valentine’s Day! But for real, who is this Val guy? Do you guys know him? Because I don’t! But one thing I believe he must have been a good man who died for love. And for that reason alone, let me wish you all a heartfelt Happy Valentine’s Day!
Now, this whole love season got me thinking if one man could die for love, who am I not to reflect on my own love life and my ideal marriage?
As you all know, I always love to pen down whatever I’m researching or pondering, so let’s get into it.
You know what? I woke up one day, and what came to my mind was, what is your ideal marriage?
And I was profoundly struck because, before that moment, I had never really sat down to think about what I wanted in my marriage.
There had been no deep conversation or real exploration around it. So, this simple question caught me off guard, took me off my feet, and started a chain of thought and reflection that I hadn’t anticipated.
It was a question I had never asked myself before. And in that moment, I realized I had never really considered what kind of partnership I truly desired. What did I need in a marriage? What were my expectations?
What values would I want to guide me? This question challenged everything I had assumed about relationships and made me realize that I needed to approach marriage with intention, thought, and understanding.
So, this question got me thinking, and I immediately set out on a quest for answers. I started researching, trying to find books and resources that could help me think clearly and guide my orientation about marriage.
Among the numerous options, I came across “101 Ways to Have 100% Success in Marriage” by Chris Davis.
I can honestly say that starting this book has been one of the best decisions I’ve made in my life. It opened my eyes to a whole new way of thinking about relationships and marriage.
The book isn’t just a typical self-help guide; it’s filled with wisdom, practical advice, and reflections that made me rethink my approach to love and partnership. It goes beyond the surface of romance and delves into the principles that form the foundation of a lasting marriage.
It speaks about the importance of communication, mutual respect, and shared values, and how both partners must actively work on nurturing their bond.
I’ve learned that marriage is not just about love alone, it’s about commitment, understanding, and partnership. The book helped me see that there are specific qualities I need to look for and cultivate in myself to make my marriage successful.
It also emphasized that a successful marriage doesn’t happen by chance; it’s something that both partners need to actively create, nurture, and maintain over time. One of the most powerful lessons was the idea that marriage is a partnership in which both individuals should help each other grow and reach their fullest potential.
While I know one book is not enough to fully prepare for such a monumental commitment, I believe it’s a fantastic starting point. It’s the beginning of a new way of thinking, one that encourages me to approach marriage with thoughtfulness and a deeper understanding of what it truly means to share your life with someone else.
In addition to the insights from the book, I’ve started engaging in more conversations about marriage what it looks like, what it requires, and what makes it thrive.
It’s not just about romantic ideals but about real-life situations, compromises, challenges, and triumphs that come along with a lifelong partnership. I feel more prepared and aware now, and I know that with continued learning, reflection, and a shared commitment to growth, my ideal marriage can become a reality.
So today, I want to share some of the most important lessons I learned from 101 Ways to Have 100% Success in Marriage and how they’ve shaped my new orientation towards marriage.
It’s a journey of growth and transformation, and while it’s just the beginning, I’m excited to see where this newfound perspective will lead me.
Marriage is a shared journey. And now, more than ever, I feel ready to embark on it with intention, understanding, and love.
Marriage is life, marriage is a school of life no one graduates in it but then we all have the room to build the marriage we want and dream of. Take a minute to think, what do you want in your marriage for single, for married people, ask yourself and don’t forget to pen it down.
Thank you for been my val today and we talking about love, marriage. If you are at one point in your life or marriage that you are not sure of, I want to say take a break, revisit yourself and you will get all the answers you were loving for.
And to all my Val pals, see you again in love, peace.
