The Heart’s Palette: Exploring the Spectrum of Emotions
Hi guys, how is your day coming? I hope you all are doing great. On today’s topic, I would discuss what feeling is and how we can handle our feelings. I know this is abstract, but we would shed light on it, trust me as I trust you all. Thanks for all your support this while.
What is feeling: To me, feeling is what you feel or react to in a certain way that sometimes you don’t have meaning or an answer for.
Feelings are the complex and intricate tapestry of human existence. They are the invisible threads that weave our daily experiences, shaping the colors of our lives. Yet, despite their omnipresence, feelings often remain elusive, enigmatic, and challenging to grasp fully.
Today, let’s embark on a journey to explore this abstract terrain and discover how we can better navigate the sea of emotions that ebbs and flows within us. I feel someone would ask what is the difference between emotions and feelings? Well:
Feelings are an integral part of being human. They are the whispers of our soul, the compass that guides our reactions, and the mirror reflecting our innermost thoughts and desires. However, the nature of feelings is often mysterious and nebulous. We can’t always pinpoint why we feel a certain way, and sometimes our emotions seem to arise from the depths of our being, without a clear explanation. While:
Emotions encompass a vast spectrum, ranging from joy and love to anger and sadness. They can be subtle like a gentle breeze or overwhelming like a tempestuous storm.
Each feeling carries its own unique color, texture, and intensity. Understanding and accepting this diversity is the first step towards effectively handling our emotions.
One crucial aspect of feelings is that they are not good or bad. They are simply signals, and messages from our inner world, providing us with valuable information about our needs, desires, and boundaries.
For example, when we feel happiness, it often signifies that we are on the right path or experiencing something that aligns with our values. On the other hand, anger might indicate a perceived threat to our well-being or values, prompting us to take action.
However, there are times when our feelings can become overwhelming or seem irrational. It’s essential to remember that our emotions are not always a direct reflection of reality. They can be influenced by past experiences, traumas, and even our physical well-being.
Thus, acknowledging our feelings without judgment and seeking to understand their roots is a crucial aspect of emotional intelligence.
Let us talk about Emotional Intelligence: Emotional intelligence in my term is when you have full control of your emotions, it is impossible for others to manipulate them. To be frank with you if you can attain this level of control of your emotions, then you are welcome to the killer team because nothing would people do that will affect you even if it does, they have no idea because all they see on you is a smile or blank face 😐 and to tell you people don’t like when their prey is not responding to their traits. They feel small, which is our goal. If you are yet to get to that level where you have your emotions under your control don’t panic too much, just come a little closer and we will learn together.
Handling our emotions involves several key steps:
- Awareness: The first step is recognizing and labeling our feelings. By putting a name to what we’re experiencing, we gain a sense of control and clarity. Let me gist you about what emotional awareness is to me before now the only people that have an effect on me were my family but then I realized families are the best players of emotions. They basically don’t know you as they claimed to because they have created a picture of you in their head, if you run out of their pattern you are not in anymore. Then I learned good girls don’t get the goals achieved but bold girls do. I didn’t change but I learned how to control my emotions around them, do my things, and leave the rest for God and this was easy for me because I gained the awareness needed.
- Acceptance: Once you are aware of your feelings, the next thing is to accept that it’s okay to feel the way you do. Avoid judging yourself for your emotions; they are a natural part of the human experience. Most times we deny ourselves just because we don’t fall in the group but guess what it is very normal to fall out of the group, it is just you thinking out of the box, you don’t need to follow the crowd build your own route and believe me you will make it.
- Exploration: This is the enemy of so many, me inclusive, we basically distract ourselves instead of diving deeper into our feelings. Ask yourself why you might be feeling this way. What triggered these emotions? What unmet needs or expectations are at play? If you need a break from people please take it so you can take a trip down memory lane for a thinking and self-finding journey.
- Expression: Find healthy ways to express your emotions. This could be through talking to a friend, writing in a journal, or engaging in creative activities. I am very sure you all know that I can’t over-explain writing, no one is a good writer we all start bad and learn along the way. There is this saying start afraid, do it with fear, fall big, fail big, and stand strong. Write down your thoughts either you join me here on Medium or have your own community. There is more to you than meets the eye.
- Regulation: Learn techniques to manage intense emotions, such as deep breathing, mindfulness, or meditation. Get a nice location, quiet and beautiful, take a deeper breath and you know Yoga isn’t bad either.
- Seeking support: Sometimes, handling emotions on your own can be challenging. Don’t hesitate to reach out to friends, family, or a professional if you need help navigating your feelings.
How can you handle Abusive People?
This is broad, learning to handle abusive people can be the bigger deal universally because some people were just born to be abusive, so don’t border trying to change them because you can’t change anyone, only those that want to change alone. So here are some approaches to having a stress-free journey with abusive people because we just need to accept them that way not to affect our feelings.
- Set Boundaries:
Establish clear boundaries with the abusive person. Let them know what behavior is unacceptable and the consequences for crossing those boundaries. Stick to these boundaries consistently. Don’t worry people will still pass the boundaries I know but you set it and let it be clear that here is the bottom line cross it and see wonders 🤗🤣.
2. Stay Calm and Composed:
In confrontational situations, try to remain as calm and composed as possible. Responding with anger or aggression can escalate the situation. Speak in a firm but non-confrontational tone. This is not easy at all, something happened beginning of this year, if it was my normal self, I wouldn’t talk but I reacted badly that later I was like what happened but it is by-gone now. But let us learn to stay calm in every odd situation we find ourselves in. God help us.
3. Avoid Escalation:
Avoid engaging in a power struggle or an argument with the abusive person. Abusers often thrive on conflict and may become more aggressive if provoked. This is the definition of run from trouble 🤣🤣.
What Can You Do When Your Feelings Is At The Edge Of Eruption?
- Calm down: first is to calm down, and take a deeper breath in case a deep breath is not providing the needed help.
- Take A Step Back: Taking a step back in every situation is the best approach to help in all odd situations. Of course, I am not talking about physical steps 🤣🤣.
- Keep Shut: Everyone makes the mistake of lashing out during this period, I also fall under this category and we rock together champs. Please, let us try our best to keep our shut and take note of our emotions by reading what each feeling is trying to teach us at the current moment.
I will be dropping the pen here today, please be good and take good care of yourself, while trying to manage your feelings and get the best of your emotions. Thanks for reading today's write-up with me.
